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Process, not Prozac
Bapak defined the three words that make up the acronym Subud as: ‘Susila means having the quality of humanity; budhi means the power of the greatness of God that is within the self of a human being; and dharma means the utmost surrender to the greatness of God by a human being….’ 59 SFO 1 As budhi is inherent, I infer that we al have the potential to be a Gandhi, a Hitler or, most likely, something in between (I guess depending on the nature and strength of the non-spiritual side of our duality). Dharma seems to be a grace, something embryonic, implanted during the Subud opening (or equivalent form of religious experience), an attribute that can grow if we are diligent in our worship. Susila,though, unless we have a ‘Road to Damascus’ epiphany, is our own responsibility, our choice. It is something we can put into practice—or not—once we have ‘al owed’ budhi and dharma to develop within. The whole phrase symbolises an aspirational state of being, the achievement of which, it is believed, is an individual’s ticket to heaven. It then fol ows that as our Association has the acronymic name Subud, susila budhi dharma must be a corporate goal as wel —a kind of mission statement to remind us how we should corporately be and act in the world. Back in the early seventies, shortly after the President of a large country left office somewhat ignominiously, the Subud National Chair of the same country was forced to resign over some financial irregularities. The then World Subud Association Chair, picking up on this apparent coincidence in an informal talk he gave at Swanwick, posed the conundrum, ‘Does Subud reflect the world, or does the world reflect Subud?’ The Chair, ever the diplomat and, I think in retrospect, keen to lessen the shock of one of our own going ‘off the rails’, went on to indicate that he believed because Subud was such a powerful, God-given tool for inner change, our influence was such that the world almost certainly reflected Subud. And, therefore, if we were bad, the state of the world would worsen[1]—and vice versa.
Believing this made us feel rather special in those fervent, heady pioneering days. Subud, was ‘for al mankind’ and, we believed, as our inner natures improved, as we became—individual y and as an Association—more ‘Subud’, so mil ions would join, attracted by our way of ‘doing business’ in finance, culture, education and welfare. This was to be the way we would eventually transform the world into a virtual paradise of brothers and sisters living together in peace under our Almighty Father’s roof. We believed this was God’s Wil , and it would happen through a form of spiritual osmosis once the aspired-to state of ‘Subud’ was achieved. Thirty-plus years on, I have to admit that the answer to the first part of the conundrum seems more realistic. Our Association remains the same size and appears, somewhat banal y, to merely be a reflection of the world and al its nefarious ways.[2] So, why have we so far failed, when we once seemed to have so much promise, so much potential? Exactly what has gone wrong and why? In a later talk, Bapak expands on the theme of susila, saying: ‘Susila means that… you are able…to possess human morality: that is, the manners, conduct and compassion of human beings…in accordance with God’s will. This indicates that you need to become people who have a sense of compassion…. If you are truly compassionate…you will be an example for society to fol ow.’ 66 BDO 1 Reading that, we have to ask ourselves: Have we, as the Subud Association, achieved that morality, that level of humanity, as a natural way of operating in the world? Could we real y be described in that way? To be brutal y honest, I don’t think we can. We are an Association that has been, at various times over the last fifty years, as hypocritical as the UN, as self-serving as any multinational, as dissembling as any government, as hidebound by dogma, insider language and conformity as any cult, and as arrogantly convinced we are God’s chosen as any other spiritual/religious organisation. We cal ourselves Subud, yet we demonstrate little compassion or humaneness—even to our own members.[3] This conclusion is supported by the undeniable existence of a large pool of peripheral and ex-members, who are, or have been, disaffected by Subud: people who have been wounded by the Subud Association (or its individual members—singly or in witch-hunting gangs); people hurt emotional y, financial y, psychological y, or al three. Oh, I can almost hear you thinking, ‘Surely that’s because they brought it on themselves…; it’s ancestral…; it’s because they have a victim mentality…’ and so on, al of which may be true. But a victim’s need for victimisation does not give carte blanche to the persecutor. For every crime victim, there has to be a criminal. Would anyone think it justice to send the burglary victim to prison along with the burglar because the windows were left unlocked? Dark dealings in Subud, sadly, are manifold. They range from the directors of a large enterprise continuing to sel shares knowing ful wel the company was about to fail, to people made scapegoats and removed from office by those with personal agendas. There have also been swindles by our wealthy, self-appointed rulers and Machiavel ian power struggles within their ranks, as wel as temporary changes to legal Constitutions and engineered Congresses—al contrived to achieve required, ‘for the common good’ outcomes. There are examples of fortunes being squandered on internecine court cases and the resultant devious legal wrangling; of corrupt and bungled enterprises that deviated far from Bapak’s original vision because of egotism and personal greed for money or power; of neighbouring countries that do not communicate with one another; of groups within groups; of cunning spin-doctoring that would be the envy of a totalitarian government and many, many instances of individuals being treated unjustly, carelessly—their livelihoods and homes compromised or lost…. The list is long. But, in another sense, none of this should matter. It’s to be expected, unavoidable, par for the course. After al , we are the ‘halt and the lame’ and we bring massive inner disability to the wedding feast. In truth, reading between Bapak’s lines, this is al supposed to happen! Bapak cal ed it ‘grains of rice rubbing together until they are smooth’. It’s the process of purification. I think it was Varindra Vittachi who used the analogy of cleaning a pond. It looks clear until you dredge up the mud at the bottom, then the pond goes pretty murky for a while. And that’s the stage we’re at—pretty murky. What does matter though—enormously—is that we seem to have a tacit corporate desire to pretend it isn’t happening. A spooky inner need to portray ourselves to ourselves (and society) as a Stepford Wives[4]-type community. A sanitised, squeaky-clean presentation of our Subud world in which mistakes, conflict, disasters, sadness, human frailty, criminality, failure, losing one’s faith and so on are quietly pushed aside and made taboo. These are topics deemed unfit for (mainly Subud) public consumption. We tend to live out—through our media, in our groups and at our gatherings—a saccharine, one-fit version of Subud: one in which investigation and discussion are deemed ‘gossip’, the need for answers becomes ‘criticism’ and analysis of behaviour, especial y if psychological y led, is label ed ‘mixing’ (yet many of us despise and revile this situation in private). In al cases of Subud disaffection (and I would guess every group has at least one person who has been disaffected over the years) there are, of course, many facets to the story, but for some reason, the victim’s tale is rarely told. Why do we need the il usion of only good news, of unjustified perfection? Why do we al ow ourselves to be thus deluded? This, I maintain, is Subud as Prozac, not Subud as process. It’s akin to an addictive drug that masks and represses symptoms, giving the il usory, surface appearance that al is wel . A drug that al ows a trancelike bumbling through the day and a semblance of normality, but which blocks the patient from searching for the root causes of the underlying sickness and, therefore, ultimately denies the ful , ‘playing out’ process that is essential for healing. But how did this come to pass? Why do we do it? Why do we join Subud professing the need to change, yet do everything in our power to protect the il usion that ‘nothing is rotten in the state of Denmark’? The story of the chiropractor and the little girl with a twisted spine may provide a clue. During a session, he managed to straighten her spine. When her mother arrived to col ect her daughter, the little girl ran to her and said, ‘Mummy! Mummy! This man has twisted my back al up!’ In other words, we tend to prefer even a distorted status quo to reality. It’s cosy, it’s safe and it’s what we know. Personal y, I believe we preserve our Subud distortion by the subtle employment of a cultish mythology, one that has been home grown and nurtured over the years. A mythology that is an accretion of Indonesian superstition and anecdotal, Chinese Whispers-style stories; hearsay held as unassailable truths. These blend seamlessly with our Western culture of devil-take-the-hindmost, of self-interest and the desire to feel ‘special’, the chosen ones. This belief system is unconsciously cultivated by inadequately trained helpers and perpetuated by masquerading, self-styled helper-gurus—the masters of low quality testing[5] underwritten by out-of-context misinterpretation of Bapak’s talks. The part of the mythology that scares me the most seems to hold that al feelings are ‘lower-force-driven nafsu’[6] (to use some Subud High Jargonese), negative energies that must be either purged from our system, or kept locked away and never expressed —even feelings of compassion. A typical story told to me by an older helper goes: ‘There was this man in Indonesia whose business was going down the tubes and another brother lent him some money to bail him out. Then that man’s business failed. And Bapak said that was because he had taken on the first man’s burden….’ Now this may wel be contextual y true, but when such stories are quoted—even if wel meant —as an excuse to do nothing, we are far, far from susila.
And when they are used as blanket proof that to be a Good Samaritan wil either deny the sufferer a chance of redemption, or wil invite ‘taking it on’ (thereby blocking one’s own progress), we are further removed stil . A woman in our group, when asked about her feelings on the 2005 tsunami,[7] I remember, just shrugged and said, ‘I cannot think about that. It is the wil of Almighty God….’ She meant that she should not interfere, should feel no compassion, that it is their (ancestral) problem and that they brought it on themselves. Involvement would somehow hamper her spiritual growth. But, you know, if we are open and direct, if we address troubling issues, if we are compassionate and willing to listen to those in difficulties, nothing terrible happens. Our latihans don’t grind to a halt and other people’s troubles don’t drag us down. When we care, we actual y become stronger. In 2006, at my old group, the new Chair organised an evening for the ‘disaffected ones’ (about 25% of the group after a stormy year)—those who, for many and personal reasons, don’t come to the group for latihan any more (they stil do latihan, mostly, but at home or in other groups). My wife and I were the only ‘disaffected ones’ who turned up…so the meeting centred on us. This was an important step in my rehabilitation, because up til then, if ever I raised the subject of my disaffection, members either reacted by saying, ‘Haven’t you got over that yet?’ or implied testily, ‘Al families have little spats; just move on.’ The most hurtful was when they metaphorical y ‘reached for the holy water’, self-protecting by disappearing inside themselves, a wel -worn Subud ploy for avoiding difficult issues. Our local International Helper facilitated the meeting and kicked off with music to my ears by saying that, in his experience, groups can’t grow if there are unaddressed issues lurking ‘under the carpet’. So, my wife and I told it like it was (for us). We didn’t mention names, and we only expressed our feelings (without petulance, I hope). We explained how isolating it felt to be ‘tested out’ of home and job after ten-plus years as live-in caretakers of the Subud House, at the very heart of the group—especial y as we weren’t involved in the testing; how painful it felt to be informed that it was our very presence that was holding back the group’s development. We also explained just how demeaning it felt to receive a writ from Subud Britain’s solicitors ordering us to vacate the premises, and how unjust it seemed to have our contractual notice period overruled and cut by half. And final y, how it had stung like a slap to be made personae non grata—the Jonahs, singled out as the scapegoats for al the group’s il s. The whole scenario had made us feel as though we were bits of old furniture cluttering up the place. At this point I have to make clear that my beef was not being expel ed per se; there was no desire to ‘hang on’. We had already sent a letter to the Committee stating that we’d probably be gone in a year. And two years on, we live in a nicer house, I’m making a buck, life’s good and the only thing I miss is the interaction with the stream of visitors (both Subud and non-Subud) we were used to welcoming to the Subud House. No, it’s the way it happened that was so shocking, so gut-wrenching, so wounding: virtual y the whole group suddenly turning on us overnight, their self-righteousness fuel ed by ever-evolving ‘testing results’; so-cal ed ‘brothers and sisters’ becoming as cold as Victorian landowners evicting non-viable tenants. Although the main protagonists were not present at the meeting (sadly), as I related my story I witnessed in myself a kind of miracle: al my pique evaporated. Suddenly, I didn’t real y mind any more (a wel known phenomenon in therapy and in the South African Reconciliation programmes). I kind of understood why it happened, why they did it, and I sort of forgave. I think this was due simply to being listened to without judgement and taken seriously—my grievances, my hurts, the injustices al being at least acknowledged for the first time. And I felt suddenly free of having to pretend I was this mythical Subud member who, after thirty-seven years of latihan, ought to be ‘steadfast in adversity’, whose heart ‘didn't make a fuss’. 63 YVR 4 I am just me, folks—faults, warts and al . ‘If you cut me, do I not bleed?’ This is a weird thing. From what people came and said to me after the meeting, I felt that the twenty-plus members in the room had, for that moment, experienced a genuine respect for me despite my open wounds, my admitted inadequacies. Maybe, I concluded, when just one person is publicly open and honest, presenting without pretence, al masks come down and tacit permission is given for others too to openly be as they real y are, and perhaps a great relief is experienced. So, was it time to forgive?[8] I’m stil struggling to know exactly what that means. It’s defined as ‘to stop harbouring feelings of anger and resentment towards (someone)’. I’ve managed that, but during the fol owing Ramadan, it suddenly occurred to me that forgiving could be seen as an arrogant gesture. It implies moral superiority, ‘I am right and you are wrong, and from my lofty height, I pardon you your sins.’ Later, watching Mel Gibbs’ The Passion, I was struck by the fact that Christ on the cross cried, ‘Father, forgive them, they know not what they do!’—not, ‘Father, I forgive them….’ I also realised that Christ had his moment of anguish, of loss of faith, of despair when he cried out, ‘My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?’ Again, it’s okay to express weakness, to show the dark side. It’s human, it’s real and, as long as you don’t stick there too long, it’s part of the process of ‘coming through’. As Icksan, Bapak’s original helper back in the Fifties was wont to say, ‘It must out.’ To this I would add, ‘In its own time frame.’ Was it time to forget?[9] Not that, either—not just yet. To paraphrase C.S. Lewis: ‘We cannot move to a good place from a bad place; we have to put right the bad place first. Just as, if an equation is wrong, to get the right answer we have to go back to find and correct the error….’ So, it’s thanks to that initial opportunity to express my feelings and to have my wounds at least acknowledged that I am on the royal road of understanding, which I believe eventual y leads through surrender to healing. And this is why I welcome and embrace this Internet Seminar initiative. In the future, I would like to see subudvision broadened out into an international y accepted, wholeheartedly embraced, face-to-face, group therapy-style procedure. I'd like a space to be created where grievances can be aired without fear of judgement; a caring ‘holding space’ where the smoothest talker doesn’t ‘win the day’, where the pain can’t be ‘tested away’ and hurriedly reburied; a space where people can speak their minds, discuss their feelings and express their anxieties openly, safe in the understanding that painful issues wil be acknowledged and not glossed over, or answered by ‘Subud-speak’. A place where, if appropriate, a route to healing can be discussed, planned and initiated. A learning space that is as real, as congruent and as purely susila as we are able to make it. A final reminder from Bapak on the meaning of susila: ‘When an animal looks for food, they do not consider others. If the food already belongs to another animal that they can defeat, they wil just take it…. Even though the food is there in front of you, if it isn’t yours you won’t take it…. That is cal ed susila. So when a person knows right and wrong, knows yes and no, knows what is their property and what is not, that is a person with humane qualities….’ 66 TJK 2 If we don’t create such a forum, if we continue with the current status quo, allowing those who have achieved animal level status to ‘take our food’, we have only ourselves to blame. And of course, reading between Bapak’s lines, he also means our spiritual food—our ability to work through our crises, our personal crucifixions, with their consequent suffering, anguish, loss of faith and eventual surrender, in order for the old self to die and the new to be born. Echoing the old saw, ‘Trust in God, but tether your camel,’ Bapak once said, ‘[P]atience, acceptance and willingness to let go should definitely be directed only to Almighty God, not towards a person. For if your submission is directed towards a person, and that person, as good as they are, stil possesses self-interest no greater than a grain of rice, the result wil be that you wil lose everything you own….’ 66 TJK 4. Again, I don’t believe Bapak is referring merely to material possessions, but to our unique, personal journeys as wel . He is, to my understanding, simply tel ing us not to surrender any part of our spiritual experiencing to any one person, group or neurosis-driven belief system, or we ‘wil lose everything we have’. In reality, the only thing we each own, and can therefore lose, is our personal journey. We have been warned…. Notes:
1. This teleological mind-set is not a mil ion miles from the Jewish belief that the
Messiah wil come in the future, but only if you are good now.
2. It could indeed be argued that the current state of the world with al its wars,
injustices, and dissembling could reflect my presumption that Subud is in a bad way,
thereby perpetuating the myth of ‘the world reflects Subud’. But that is for another
3. And if our per capita percentage divorce, murder, criminality, failed business,
disaffection and mental health rate (just as examples) are no different to the world’s, I
do wonder sometimes, just exactly what we are offering beyond a nice, lovey-dovey
feeling at World Congresses. However, I am not disparaging the latihan, or doubting
its efficacy. I have personal y benefited enormously from the inner changes I have
perceived in myself over my thirty-seven years in Subud. These include the
disappearance of my anxiety depression, the growth of a rich and fulfil ing family life,
an uncovering of latent creativity and insight and experience beyond my wildest
dreams. I have documented al of this and more in my book Saving Grace (VIA
BOOKS 2004).
4. Stepford Wives: a 1972 novel by Ira Levin, as wel as two movies of the same
name, the first released in 1975 (remake released 2004). The premise involves the
male inhabitants of the fictional town of Stepford, who al have eager-to-please,
overly submissive, and impossibly beautiful wives. The protagonist is Joanna
Eberhart, a new arrival to Stepford with her husband and children, keen to start a
new life. As time goes on, she becomes increasingly puzzled by the zombie-like
Stepford wives, especial y when she begins to see her once independent-minded
friends turn into mindless, docile, ‘perfect’ housewives overnight. Read more on
5. Testing: I believe this is an area that has got us into a lot of trouble. For the
uninitiated, testing is a way of asking Almighty God for guidance, answers being
‘received’ usual y through feelings, movement and/or sound, al of which has then to
be interpreted. Despite the fact that Bapak has warned us that our testing is probably
only 10% accurate, it is used for making many decisions, individually and as an
Association (especial y for choosing officers) and is Subud’s main claim to being a theocracy. The big problem with testing, as far as I can see, is that if (or when) it al goes wrong, there is rarely a ‘Plan B’. 6. Nafsu, translates as desire, passion or ego, depending on context. They manifest whenever an ‘ancil ary’ (Bapak’s term for the heart, the mind, or sexual organs etc.) is fuel ed by a ‘lower force’ (material, vegetable, animal or human), as opposed to the ideal of being driven by the jiwa, or purified soul. In Subud circles, the term is often used to describe any non-conforming, boat-rocking or outspoken behaviour (such as this essay). 7. I am aware of the work done by Susila Dharma, the charitable/welfare arm of Subud, especial y of the aid given in Indonesia after the tsunami. Despite a smal membership (both professionals and voluntary workers), Susila Dharma has NGO status with the UN and funds several humanitarian projects worldwide. 8/9. I am intrigued that ‘forgive’ and ‘forget’ have the antonyms of ‘giving’ and ‘getting’ inbuilt. The Oxford Etymological Dictionary indicates that this antonymous quality goes right back through the Dutch (vergeven and vergeten), Old German (fargeban and firgezzan) and Old English (forgiefan and forgietan) derivatives, meaning ‘pardon’ and ‘fail to remember’ respectively, but does not explain further or say anything about modern usage and implied meaning.


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